The one thing I’ve realised writing this post is that I should’ve done it as my 21st blogtober post, but we’re just going to have to roll with it being the 22nd instead! I also just wanted to let you know before you carry on reading that this is a much bigger post that what I normally write, but I thought it was important to get everything out.
I wanted to do some kind of ‘what I’m thankful for…’ or ‘what I’ve learnt…’ kind of post for a long time and I’ve seen many of these posts throughout the year and thought I’d give it a go.
I find 21 a really weird stage in anyone’s life because so many of the people the same age as you are doing so many different things. I have friends who are travelling the world, who have already reached their dream job, who are starting their own families and in the midst of it all, I’m sat here, taking my time and enjoying my blog.
There are a lot of things happening around me and I just wanted to let you guys know some of the experiences and lessons that have helped me on my way, so far.
1. Don’t Rush. Don’t rush into any situation, as much as you want it. This could be a relationship or a new job, just always make sure you’re ready for it before you jump on in head first.
2. Concentrate in school. I still use information I learnt in school now. I never really had much of a social life during my A -Levels but I think that for me, that was the only way I was going to get the grades that I wanted. It’s always important during your school years to have fun and study hard at the same time seeing as you’re always young once.
3. Excersise. Now I don’t mean go to the gym 4 times a week (if this is what you do then fair play to you), I just think that even going for a walk around the village or down to the beach is good for you. I think some kind of exercise is important just to keep your heart beating strong. It’ll definitely pay off in the long run!
4. Be Polite. I don’t think there’s an excuse to not being polite. A “please” and “thank you” at the end of a sentence isn’t hard to do, even if you’re having a bad day.
5. Appreciate your pets. This sounds a bit obvious but I know sometimes I find my dogs annoying, especially when they don’t stop barking or get under my feet when I’m trying to do something. But then I remember that they’re not going to be there forever and apologise to them straight away.
6. Don’t apologise for being you. I always caught my self saying sorry for the most ridiculous things. My mother told me when I was a teenager that I needed to stop apologising for being me and that really stuck with me. So now I only apologise when I know I’ve done or said something wrong.
7. Smile. Smiling and happiness are honestly the most infectious things for a human. I try and smile as much as I can. Even if you don’t realise it, by smiling when you’re out, you’ll definitely get at least one other person smiling because of it.
8. Always take your make up off before bed. I don’t do this enough, especially after nights out or warking late. It ruins your skin and you’ll wake up with some spots and blemishes that you’ve been trying so hard to get rid of. It also makes skin f=dry and oily and I can’t be dealing with that right now.
9. Stay positive. I think that staying positive and being an optimist in situations is a great mindset for life. Even when you hit rock bottom, there’s no need to dwell on it because, at the end of the day, the only way is up!
10. Never Lie. Not even a little white lie, because every lie most probably has a consequence. I’ve definitely learnt my lesson with this one and now I don’t see the point in it. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy.
11. Choose friends who are good for you. I have lost so many friends that I spent years of my life with just because I knew deep down that I wanted to spend my time with a different kind of people. I needed people that would be there for me even if we didn’t speak for a long period of time and would always have my back when I need them. If I’m being honest, I don’t think I have more than about 10 good friends, but I like it this way. Quality over quantity.
12. Do what you enjoy. Even if this means you have to do it on your own. Doing this will bring so much satisfaction and joy to you that you’ll be happy to do it even more. And if you’ve found what you enjoy the most, make sure you give it everything you’ve got.
13. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or support. I tend to turn to my boyfriend for this mainly because he can always tell when something’s up. I wouldn’t naturally say when something’s wrong as I like to keep things bottled up and hope they sort themselves out. But as soon as I do let it all out, it feels so much better. Trust me on this one.
14. Accept and appreciate others. Since going to university, I’ve met loads of people from a variety of different backgrounds and it really opened my eyes to so much. Everyone has their own story and I think you can learn so much from just listening to what people have to say. I also think you should respect people and their opinions, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.
15. Wear whatever you want. Growing up I used to try and follow the latest trends but it never really worked out for me as I was a bit of a tomboy. So, instead, I just wore what I was comfortable in and ironically enough, it’s only during this past year where I’ve enjoyed fashion and clothes.
16. Be Present. Growing up with the rise of technology and social media, I remember the days where we had none of it. I think that feeling of being present has been instilled in me since everyone has become so invested to being online.
17. Don’t let other people’s judgement stop you. I have turned down so many opportunities because I was worried about what my friends and other people might think. I never wanted anyone to laugh at me or judge me for what I was doing and it makes me quite sad to think that I let them stop me from doing things that I loved. I’ve definitely learned from these experiences and won’t let it happen again.
18. Be sure when saying “I love you.” I have only said those three word to my boyfriend. I’ve wanted to say it during relationships before him but I always kept it inside until I knew for sure. Luckily I never said it to anyone else and I’m glad I didn’t because it made saying it to my boyfriend a whole lot more special.
19. Have some savings. Growing up I never really saved any money and used to blow it all on one ridiculous thing that I never used again. At this age I realise that I need some kind of savings to fall back on so I have a bumper incase something happens which I need money for. It also gets you in the habit for whenever you want to save for something big like a car or a deposit on a house!
20. Love Yourself. Or at least try and love aspects of yourself. I think becoming comfortable in your own skin is one of the best things that happens to you as you grow up. I know I’m not 100% there yet but I’m most definitley on my way.
21. Have fun! I think this is pretty self explanatory but just enjoy what your doing, no matter how little that may be!
Hopefully you guys have taken at least one thing from this post, if not more. I just wanted to help you guys by showing you the things that I’ve learnt that will possibly help you too!
Thank you for reading,
Love you all X
P.S Sorry about the late posting of this post!